Change is coming.

It’s late October, and if you haven’t been paying attention there’s a significant U.S. election underway. This isn’t a political post. This is a post about change and what it means to change. I’m comfortable saying that 2020 has brought plenty of change to the world. It’s also brought a lot of heartbreak and sorrow, grief and mourning. So, change is in the air. It’s thick.

The way I see it, there’s two ways of handling change. One way of handling it is with resistance. You can resists change -fight it at every turn. Or, the other way of handling change is by embracing it. Understanding that everything changes and leaning into the “new” with everything you got.

I’m not going to tell you which is right or wrong. We all have to make our own decisions about how we’d like to handle change. I’m sure it all depends on what kind of change we’re talking about. What I would like to share though, is how I’m handling change these days. It’s probably not what you think.

I handle change poorly in most circumstances. I don’t like it. It’s uncomfortable. Not knowing makes me feel fearful. And ignorant. That’s not a good feeling. However, that’s usually just the first time I try something new. Or until I figure out what is changing and how I need to navigate the change(s). Regardless, it sucks (in most cases).

Recently though, I’ve been leaning into change. My attitude has sifted. It’s a consciencious decision. And I have to think about it that way. Otherwise, my normal, cynical and resistant self takes over. 

You’ll never hear me say that change is easy or not a big deal. It is. But, I’m tired of fighting things that don’t matter or amount to anything. I’ve reached a time in my life where I need to choose my battles with more intention. And now, maybe more than ever, change is happening fast. It’s happening at a dizinging pace. So,  choosing which things are worth resisting, and which things are pointless fight, is vital.

Regardless of my choice, I will most certainly proceed with the same unwavered kindness that has dicated my life.